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TV CAN BE A GOOD PARENT (Ariel Gore)

Ariel Gore, USA (1970- )

  • The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) released new guidelines assuming that watching TV is a bad idea for kids. 
  • Ariel Gore, being a single mother struggling to pay her rent with her unsatisfied wage, takes her voice to disapprove of the AAP’s new approach. 
  • Accompanying her argument with her personal life, she opens up about the difference in time between when she was a kid and now when she is a mom. When she was a kid, the rent bills were minimal and her mother had a group of friends who helped each other without hesitation with their kids. However, she tells that she has no advantages as her mom had.
  • Gore agrees that babies and toddlers have a critical need for direct interactions with actual people but she solely disagrees that exposing such young minds to TV programs should be discouraged. She feels that kids are able of interacting with their parents and caregivers even while watching TV. There are shows that not only influence children but also uplift their creativity. Some TV shows are directed towards pulling the cognitive skills of kids and merging their interactions with the actual people and those inside the TV world. 
  • The key is not to attack those shows but to warn parents that they shouldn’t watch violent and inappropriate shows in front of the young ones. 
  • Gore admits that TV is not the greatest thing in the world for little kids but the assumptions AAP has made saddens her for only visualising the stay-at-home moms, with a partner or other supportive people in nurturing the kids. 
  • Gore puts forward the demands that need to be viewed before the policy gets furnished- that TV should replace the culture of war and violence with better educational programming. 
  • People should be provided with living wage jobs, government salaries for stay-at-home moms, and minimal expenditures on rent with a supportive community to raise children. Till then, she insists on the prosperity of TV for parenting children like hers.
  • This essay tries to explore the answer to the question of whether viewing TV is really harmful or helpful for children's intellectual and cognitive development. It has been a major concern to today's parents regarding the close link between TV and children's study. The common notion of the majority of parents is that TV has stood as the killer of students' reading habits.

    Ariel Gore, a great writer, argues that TV can be a good parent. It can especially be useful to parents who have got jobs and those who cannot afford to keep caretakers to look after their children. When children watch TV, parents can work freely. Although Gore is not a strong supporter of TV watching, she believes that it can serve the people of caretakers’ mothers who cannot afford to keep them.

    As a single working mother, Gore defends television and thinks that it can be a good parent. She is surrounded by problems and she cannot be a stay–at–home mother. She shows how TV can be useful for working mothers like herself who cannot spend sufficient time with children. When she needed time for herself she found that the TV programs like Big Bird and Barney the Dinosaur a better parents than herself. TV has been a helpful co-parent.

    She cites the American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) report that states she is doing her daughter an injustice every time she lets her watch TV, babies and toddlers (young children) need direct interaction with parents for healthy brain growth and for cognitive (knowledge) skills, exposing young children to television should be discouraged. Gore analyses the report and defends herself: She admits that babies and toddlers have a critical need for direct interaction with actual people. However, she disagrees with the view that children should not be exposed to television. She thinks that sticking them in front of a TV all day and all night should be discouraged but watching kids don’t interact with their parents is a false assumption.

    She also criticises AAP’s view that young children should not watch TV at all and its recommendation that the paediatrician (baby doctor/ a specialist in the care of babies) view TV is not the best learning tool and it can be interactive (Capable of acting on or influencing each other). She is not ready to accept the assumption that TV-watching kids don’t interact with her parents.

    Literal Comprehension

    An American mother Arial Gore wrote, “TV can be a good Parent”. In this essay, she has described the condition when TV becomes the parent of co-parent for kids by making a reaction to the guidelines given by the American Academy of Paediatrics. The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) gives new guidelines for parents telling that letting kids under the age of 2 watch TV is harmful. Instead of worrying about more important issues such as welfare and poverty; AAP is worried about children watching TV. The writer Gore defends this idea telling that a TV set can be a good parent to a single-parent family where the parent had to go to job leaving their children at home. In a single-parent family when there is no one to take care of the children, the TV set can be a parent for them. To defend this idea she talks about her own personal life.

    In the 1970s, when Gore was a child, there was no TV set in her home. Her mother called the TV set a “Boob Tube”. Her mother did not have to pay so much rent for the room and had friends whom all took care of the children by helping each other. However, those days were in 1970 and this is 1980. She herself now has become a mother and has to go office leaving her daughter with a TV set. That has become an injustice according to AAP because the research shows that young children need more interaction with their parents and caregivers. Due to this, the kids should have a loss of direct interaction with their parents and caregivers but it does not mean that she /he never talks to anyone, Gore says that she would understand if AAP discouraged children from watching much TV all day and all night, according to her watching a little TV during a day to give their parent a break is not going to kill or make them dumb. She insists that they should be more worried about having shows like “Jerry Springer” while the young child is in a room with them.

    She says that direct interaction with people is far better than anything. But she is forced to leave her daughter in front of a TV program to go for jobs. Some programs like “BLUES CLUES” make children interactive not passive. So there must be programs for the betterment of kids. A survey shows that parents having direct interaction and spending more time with children is better than anything to them. But a TV set can be like a good parent or co-parent in special conditions when the parent can’t give time to children. Better care of the children can be given with direct care, interaction etc. but all single parents can’t give much time due to their poor economic condition. Gore also does not feel that a TV set is the greatest thing in the world for little kids for anyone. She says that much more educational programs are needed for kids to end the culture of war and violence. Along with it, she argues that if the government provides salaries to all housewives, they can spend maximum time with their kids and they can give more time to care and interact etc. Until such management is provided, TV by compulsion becomes the parent or co-parent of children.

    Interpretation

    This essay is based on the usefulness of TV, especially to poor single mothers. Many mothers are compelled to work outside for sustaining their life and the life of the family, in such conditions, there’s nobody to take care of the children and it becomes inevitable for mothers to make their children watch television. Though the mothers love their children, to feed and run their house they had to work. In the essay, it is expressed that money is playing a crucial role during this moment and it’s not like the time of ancient where each was helping the other to care for their children, hence, the TV is one of the best solutions for making the children busy and parent work for feeding the children and run the life. In the essay, the writer expresses that poor mothers can get only a few days as an off day in a week and on that day they have lots of work to do if the children engage themselves in watching television, she can accomplish her work very easily. The lower-class (poor) mothers see the importance of television. Similarly, they accept that nude and violent and abusive programs only make the children not the good programs. Many TV programs like Nick Jr, and Sesame Street can develop the cognitive power of children too.

    Critical Thinking

    The way, the writer has presented the essay by attaching her real life and how the TV can be the best parent for poor parents is most appreciable. Along with her clarification, I do not think that TV can really do the job of the mother. Mother has the greatest meaning as a living being which the non-living thing TV can’t do. So, can the TV occupy the position of the mother? Does the TV care for the children as mothers do? Can the children learn to write looking television programs? Does caring for the children only mean passing their time own-self? Why the writer is not expressing her view about the care of the children during their sickness?

    Assimilation

    After reading this essay by Gore, I come to realise that being a mother and feeding their children is a very much difficult task and how mothers are managing their time with the help of different things like TV. This essay made me remember my past days when there was no TV set in my home but my family was a joint family and I could be cared for by other family members too. At this moment I have a little daughter and for the sake of managing time I m compelled to make my children watch the television so I can manage the time for reading, cooking, feeding etc. this essay really touched me.


Sources:

Nissani, M., & Lohani, S. (2013). Flax-Golden Tales : An Interdisciplinary Approach to Learning English.Kathmandu, Nepal: Ekta Books.

Sapkota, T. (2018). Impacts of TV Viewing on Children. Myagdi Guru : A Journal of Interdisciplinary Studies, 1, 44-47.

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